12 Signs She Is Testing You And Ways To Win Her Over

Your date might suddenly start acting strange. You might wonder if these are the signs she is testing you or you did something wrong. For example, she plans to meet and then cancels without reason. She asks you questions, and the next moment becomes silent and refuses to talk. She might put you in tough spots and observe your reaction. You could be confused with her sudden changes in behavior. If you do not behave the way she wants you to, she might question you or respond unusually. While others may tell you she is playing mind games, you need to understand her concerns. Perhaps, she is testing you and trying to be more sure of certain parameters before committing to you for a long-term relationship. Keep reading as we tell more about this.

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12 Signs She Is Testing You

Consider her tests normal and stay focused to pass them and win her. Here are some signs that tell she is testing you.

1. She plays hard to get

She plays hard to test you

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如果她想看到你有多严重and to what extent you will go to be with her, she might be hoping for you to make all the moves. She knows that someone who is fooling around will give up quickly, but the guy who genuinely loves her will stick around to earn her affection.

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Don’t mistake her reluctance and stalk her, hoping she will eventually give in. If she shows zero interest, then back off.

2. She wants to know how much you care for her

She wants to be taken care of and pampered when she is sick. When she tells you she is unwell, she wants you to check on her by calling or texting frequently. When you do, she will know you are concerned and want totake care of her.

3. She mentions one thing repeatedly

Of late, you have been hearing her mention how badly she wants to watch a particular movie or try the food at a new restaurant. You know she can do it alone anytime, but if she repeatedly mentions it, she probably wants to see if you are listening and paying attention to her. She wants you to suggest one of these wishes of hers, to show you care and tomake her happy.

4. She takes you to a place where there are many women

Remember her eyes are on you

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If you ever find yourself with her in a pub or hangout place with many attractive ladies, do not give in to the temptation of checking them out. It could be difficult but remember her eyes are on you, and she will instantly notice when your eye contact darts toward other women.Some women will watch for this during the initial stages of courtship to ensure they are notdatinga man that displays possible disloyal behaviors.

5. She cancels or postpones plans

There may come a time when she will cancel a date for no reason or suggest postponing a lunch or dinner. She wants to know what amount of effort you would put in togo on a date with her. A guy who is serious about her will try at least a couple of times to take her on a date. The one who gives up or forgets about her may not be ‘the one’ for her. However, if she cancels more than twice, get the hint that she is not interested in you.

6. She shows interest in knowing your past relationships

Your past relationships can tell her a lot about you. If she asks you about your exes, say good things about them without blurting out every detail. Show her you are mature enough tomove onwith good feelings in your heart. And do not talk badly about your exes; it shows your lack of respect for women and relationships.

7. She introduces you to her friends

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Perhaps she fears that her love for you might blind her to the extent where she overlooks your flaws. She might look for others’ opinions by introducing you to her friends.This ‘expert panel’ of hers will give her feedback on whether or not they see you as the best match for her.When she takes you to meet her friends, remember to be on your best behavior – these opinions are often taken quite seriously.

8. She shares little details about herself

You may find it unusual when she tells you how her pet dog accidentally pooped on her, or her first favorite color was yellow, but now she likes red. She might say such things to check if you pay attention to what she says. If she matters to you, you will remember little things about her. And if not, it’s loud and clear that you are not listening to her, which will feel like you do not care enough for her.

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Some women are particular about you remembering their likes and dislikes. Make an effort to remember minute details, as these small gestures matter a lot.

9. She seeks your help

When she asks you for help, she wants to know if she can rely on you. Women like to be with someone who makes them feel safe and protected. If she calls you late at night to fix her computer, help her and let her know you will be there for her whenever she needs you. However, none of us should be at someone’s beck and call. Learn to gauge when she needs you and when she will be okay independently.

10. She deliberately pushes your limits

She deliberately pushes your limits

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You may feel like she is unreasonable and testing your patience at times.She is looking to understand how you react under pressure and to what extent you can control yourself.If you are in the initial dating period, she might need to understand your worst possible reaction.

11. She wants to know your plans for the future

When a woman asks you about your plans, goals, and ambitions, she is probably considering you for the long run. She wants to know what she can expect from you in a relationship and if you are a suitable person who can offer her a solidrelationshipof companionship and security.

12. She avoids getting intimate with you

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She probably喜欢你就像你喜欢她, but that does not mean she will immediately have a sexual relationship with you.By waiting, she will feel more comfortable about your real intentions. A man who wants to date only for physical intimacy will get impatient, but a guy who truly has loving feelings for her will wait till she feels comfortable enough to be intimate with him. When she willingly sleeps with you, it means she is positive about who you are and wants to move into a closer physical relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How can I tell if she’s ignoring my texts?

可能是显而易见的如果她忽略你的文本。The ignoring could start with a few delayed replies followed by none. You might see her online and that she has seen your messages. However, there are chances that her ignorance is unintentional. Give her a few days and try to ask her directly. If she is still unresponsive, avoid initiating further conversations and try to accept the truth.

2. Is she testing me by pulling away?

She may or may not be testing you by pulling away. Some women may check if you are genuinely interested in them. They would want to see your dedication and will to be with her by pulling away from you.

3. Why would a woman test a man?

A woman could test a man to know if he possesses the traits she values the most. She would like to know if you are ready to invest your time, patience, and energy in a relationship with her. It could also be a way to check if you would abandon her.

Sometimes your girlfriend could make things difficult and put you in a tricky situation. She may suddenly cancel plans, make you impatient, dig into your past, or constantly text you. Though it can be tough to understand her behavior, these could be signs she is testing you. It is important not to feel enraged or offended as a woman may test only the man she likes and wants in her life. Watch out for the clues mentioned above, answer her queries sincerely, be patient and you might pass these tests and her examination with flying colors and prove you are the one for her.

Infographic: How To Know If She’s Testing You Through Texts?

You met a girl and hit it off on a perfect note. But now her replies and texts are confusing, and you can’t figure out if she doesn’t like you or is testing you to know your true feelings and commitment towards her. Don’t worry; we got you! Explore the subtle signs of a girl testing you through texting.

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Key Pointers

  • 有时,你的date may try to test how much you care for her.
  • She may put your loyalty, patience, and attentiveness to the test.
  • She may deliberately push your limits or avoid physical intimacy. • However, these tests are indicators that she is interested in a long-term relationship and is waiting to be won over.


Are you ready to learn some sneaky ways girls test your confidence? Let’s find out how to stay confident and pass the test!

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